One of the greatest principles of success: You become what you think about.
So, what are you thinking about?
I started my career as a classroom teacher and while I loved working with young children, opportunities took me out of the classroom and put me into another realm of education. I loved this work enough to spend close to 13 years in it. However, around the 10 year mark I began to grow restless. I was at the top of my field, there was no position above me to reach. I was starting to feel like my career needed a change. I starting thinking of myself as something or someone else.
I started thinking about it a lot. In fact, it was all I could think about. Sometimes when you dream too much, it can affect your daily living. I so badly wanted what was in my dreams that I could hardly stand to live the professional life I had – the real professional life I had. It’s easy to get caught in the trap of identifying your happiness only with what will come. I could hear and feel myself becoming less and less happy in my current professional state, feeling like I would only be happy when my life changed. Having dreams is important. I might argue it is critical, but my dream needed limits.
As I faced the dissonance between my dream-professional life versus my real-professional life, I realized I had to take my own advice. I had talked with a friend who wanted a change in her life that wasn’t immediately available. When faced with this, we have two choices: 1) make the change happen or 2) find a reason to be happy without the change.
So, my friend really wanted to live in Minnesota. She was so unhappy not being in Minnesota that it was affecting her life here. I gave her the two options: If you really, really want to live in Minnesota then you need to stop wanting it and make it happen. You have to start today and begin your move to Minnesota. If that is what you want, then you have to be the one to create it for yourself. However, if for some reason you cannot move to Minnesota right now, then you have to make a change here. You have to find a reason to fall in love with here.
Falling in love with here can be hard when you have your sights set on Minnesota. Nonetheless, I knew I had to take my own advice and fall (back) in love with the professional life I had. I wasn’t about to give up on my dreams but I had to make the best of my current situation. The reality was, I might be there for a while.
From that day on, I was fully committed to making the most out of my here. I was going to be the best version of myself each and every day, and put my best professional foot forward. I kept the pilot light of my dream ignited but I didn’t let it burn down my current life.
It was then that I found myself at another decision point. I’m giving my all to my here and I have found a reason to love it again, but I was feeling like my dream was starting to fade. How can I keep them both alive without letting one ruin the…